Absent Father

I have just registered and read the letter from Sarah R. I am in the same situation. I have a 2 year old son and his father has been absent since he was 6 months old. It is a hard situation to be in and knowing somebody that is going through the same thing would be great. I also agree that it would be good for the children to have a friend in the same situation for support and so that they know they are not alone.

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Absent father / disappearing father

Thank you. Am so glad I

Submitted by Jenny J on Fri, 2009-08-21 19:08.

Thank you. Am so glad I bought the book and found this website as the advice will make so much difference to my son. I always thought it would be best to avoid talking about dads but can see now that he needs to know and talk about it. I feel that if i can build up his confidence and self esteem and follow the tips about talking about his dad he will be better able to deal with this when he goes to school. I had been so worried as i hadnt a clue where to start before so thanks for the tips and advice!

Welcome and fingers crossed

Submitted by emily on Fri, 2009-08-21 11:36.

Welcome and fingers crossed you and Sarah R can at least meet in cyber-space! There are alot of people in your boat out there, you'll find them through school etc.. My 2 top tips are for you to keep talking to your son about his dad - we had an email from a 15 year old the other day who had never met her dad and didn;t know how to talk to her mum about it - it was one of the msot heartbreaking ones I've read. Secondly - absent dad means many things but from a selfsih point of view it means no childfree time or respite for you - make sure you get some. Sleepovers with grandparents, uncles, family friends?? Spending the day with another family so grown-up responsibiliy is shared? Reciprocal arrangements where yoy take another child for a day and / or night and then they do the same for you? It sounds silly but I think childfree time gives you the space to be you. good luck Emily