• Get out there, for in the words of a Romanian proverb 'where there are no swamps there are no frogs', and I couldn’t agree more
• The easiest way to find something is to buy a replacement………know what I mean???
• Keep safe on the dating scene, and whatever you do never test the depth of the water with both feet

So you feel ready to get back into the dating arena! Do make sure you are ready for this, have a go at a few of the worksheets, which may clarify what you are after etc. We believe that once you have set this as a goal and mission then you need to attack the issue as many ways as you can: as we say ‘chuck as many balls in the air as possible…!’ Let your friends know that you are happy to be set up, have a look at a few internet sites, peruse the small ads of your preferred newspaper or mag, ask friends over, socialise like fury and think about speed dating. This will all serve to limber you up, get your antennae working, and get you back in the swing. Think about how and when you will deal with your children and dating implications. Treat it like a project, but once you have set a strategy get out there and just have fun. Remember - nobody wants to be around a desperate, bitter person so have some fun and good luck!