• Your ex is for life and not just for Christmas
• I didn’t say it was your fault I said I was going to blame you
• And on the other hand ……..there are different fingers! Nod sagely at this point

Whilst your ex is your ex, children do not have ex-parents. Whatever your ex may have done, whatever you think of them, or however great a new partner may be with your children, they are still a parent. The ex may drive you round the twist, be a complete no-hoper, or be a ‘nobody’ in your life, but make no mistake that this person is very important to your children (whatever they may tell you, or you may think). Try to remember this so that you can develop some sort of way of managing this issue until the children are old enough to manage the relationship themselves. It may not be easy, but it will be worth it in the long run. When your well-adjusted child turns into a balanced adult you will be able to take a very big slap on the back and know that you did the right thing.