Kate & Emily

Just had to write and say hi . I am also a physio and single mother of a 10 year old , waiting for a financial settlement if it gets to that as my husband is American and he has everything in his name over there when I put in more that half the equity. That is not what I wrote to say but I too have just moved and I feel quite overwhelmed ; I do work from home and would like to encourage you that at sometime you can go back to your work . I am quite a specialist by now and I am having to get much much better at the administration of running a professional business to earn myself a living as my husband has completely stopped any finance.

I have withdrawn a bit but now am starting to find the right sort of people for me in my life - sometimes is is right to withdraw to work out your next step and what is right for you . Sometimes feeling you are close to
a nervous break down is actually when you are close to a break through and you just need the confidence to believe in yourself .

I am having to find the right help as I can't do it all myself and it is hard to know what I can afford and I have not been good at asking for help.

There may be others that you can identify with and who you can talk to with out simply being a victim and with whom you can plan you steps forwards with - if I can help by offering any advice on how to maintain some sort of career pathway I would love to .

I imagine you to be younger than me ? I am now 46 ! You have your whole life in front of you and we ... (I too struggle with this )have to learn how to enjoy the process even the hard steps - in fact the hard steps are the ones that make the most of us / teach us the most in the end .

I have been quite alone in my career pathway as I have been a bit different with my route in life but I have manage to maintain my experience throughout in dribs and drabs and find it very fulfilling and helpful. And is what is helping me to survive at the moment . If it helps give up on the ironing some times - there is no way I can fit it in ! Hang it well as it dries ad forget the ironing if you can ?

I hope I am not waffling too much !!!!!I hope I can help you as you have gone through your training and achieved so much and now you are a mother and carer to your mother - which is so hugely important and big in itself , you can maintain or pick up you career in time and earn very well in time . I am crazy and love to talk about my work and am interested in how we grow too / our psychology so if you would like to talk further I am very happy to.

I hope it helps . You are not heading for a break down or do not have to, at least but you do need to recognise you are finding things very difficult (and probably feel let down in many ways) and reach out for a little help either from professionals or people you know , going to a group - I am in Kent ... It is one step at a time - I have days when I think I can conquer the world and days when I feel very bad.

You need to get out and do a bit that makes you feel good about yourself - even a walk with or with out your child - something that makes you feel good and reminds you who you are and what you have already achieved in you life and can be proud of ......

I don't know when you posted this ? I hope you thinking about you next step . You can choose .... and you can achieve - even though you are tied at the moment with obligations as a mother and carer.

Love, Fiona