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I gave my now ex-husband's sister and brother-in-law power of attorney over our two sons when my husband went to prison and I ended up losing my home. They have been there almost a year, and it's almost time for me or my ex to go move the boys back to our town, which is 6 hours away from where the boys live with their aunt and uncle. I talk to the boys twice a week on the phone, and was able to go visit them once a few months ago. Today my oldest boy said he'd been thinking about it, and he doesn't want to live with me or his father, but wants to stay where he is, but that we could come visit. This breaks my heart and I know my husband won't want that either, but what do I do? They are in a very positive, stable environment and seem happier than when we were all together, but I miss them terribly. Someone please help me figure out what is best?

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Hello, I'm afraid this is

Submitted by emily on Sat, 2010-02-13 22:13.

Hello, I'm afraid this is one posting where I really feel totally unqualified to give any advice.  The decision is so important and difficult that I think you need professional help to work out what to do, and then how to make it work.  I think I know who might be able to help though - here's a link to Relate who not only do marriage guidance but also help families and young people to work things out - follow this link and give them a ring as I'm sure they'll be much better able to help you than Kate or I can. http://www.relate.org.uk/family-counselling/index.html.  I wish you so much luck and really hope that you're able to figure out what is best.  Love Emily