Mothers opinions dis-regarded!

Can i ask your advice? My husband has recently started seeing a woman who apparently is very religious. I always went to Sunday school as a child and although I am not religious I am a member of the church of Scotland. My ex has never been religious however and we decided when our son was born to let him make up his own mind re his beliefs when he was older. Now, as his new girlfriend goes to church (he wont tell me the denomination and simply tells me its a Christian church - i beleive its Evangelist or Baptist) hes started taking our son to Sunday school there. I've said that I would rather he didnt go but he says when son is with him he will go as he is going. At the moment son says its ok but music is boring and the man "drones" on. What is annoying me is the total lack of respect for my views. Have I no control over what I see as right?

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Submitted by kate on Sun, 2008-08-31 16:04.

I do realise that to feel disregarded like this is hard, but really that is at the nub of co parenting. It is all about compromisise and doing what is right for your child .You are no longer in a relationship with Dad where you would work things through you disagree and his view has an equal weight to yours . So it boils down to picking your battles and I would not pick this one. At the end of the day it is a religion similar to your own and your child doesn't mind going . Were he to start spouting homophobic views or anything you feel strongly about then the importance of the battle changes and you might need to review.To be quite brutally honest what he does at the weekends with his Dad has as much to do with you as what goes on in your house when Dad is not around . Of course your views matter but in this instance I would let it go .

Kate