Always Remember This....
In the eye of the storm children’s needs should be paramount, not trapped between parents or go-betweens
Realise the differences between your feelings and the children’s:
You might hate your ex, they love him
You might feel like you’re out of prison, they’ll feel devastated
All the books and professionals say it: the most important factor in helping children handle divorce is the on-going relationship they have with their Mum AND Dad.
Love your children as much as possible
Listen to them and let them talk. Tell them it’s Ok to express your feelings
Tell them the divorce isn’t their fault
Keep parenting consistent – don’t over compensate for the divorce, or take it out on the children
Research shows that it’s good for children if parents can keep a consistent parenting style after separation
Hard as this is, it’s important for children to keep their relationships with both sets of grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins etc going
Separation and divorce is difficult and it’s knock-on effects multiply. However, it can, and often does, lead to more stable and satisfying relationships within the family
You need to roll with the punches; there will be setbacks and upsets. The key is not to let them overwhelm you and get back on track ASAP
Do you love your children more than you hate your ex? Well then, put them first!
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