thanks for feedback, i have read some good stuff on grieving at the end of arelationship and understand we are all in very different places, unfortunately my ex decided to tell kids, which was unwise. i think and know that my kids come first, and my job is to ensure they always know that. as far as the romance goes my intuition tells me that this relationship is right for me, but only time will tell..

The end of any relationship is a difficult time you say you have gone through an intense period of ups and downs. The only thing I would say is that this is an unusual time when emotions are heightened , needs greater and more vulnerable and everything is supercharged , so yes do be careful.

Percieved wisdom is that embarking on a new relationship during this time may be hasty and that it is a good idea for you , your children and your ex to rebalance before moving on but if cupid has really struck then who I am to put your fire out. Just do try to be sensitive to your ex and the children they may be finding your new found loved up state very difficult when they are all dealing with a big change in their lives
Kate