Sounds Familiar?

Here’s another ‘Sounds Familiar?’ article because it always helps to know that there are others out there with children that are reacting to divorce just like yours. I also like the list of words that the Kate & Emily Mums have used to describe their children’s characters – nothing to do with divorce, it’s how they are warts and all and it doesn’t seem as if they’re a bad bunch and makes me feel OK that my children have joined this gang too.

My children are…… And I think this is as a result of living with a single parent.

  • Increasingly testing of boundaries
  • Questioning
  • Desperate to know more than anyone else does about me and their Dad, so they’re not caught out or the last to know
  • Curious
  • Confused
  • An only child
  • Very close
  • Strong and independent
  • Asking more about Dad
  • Father figure role is played by my brother
  • Embarrassed about not having Dad around – wants to keep it a secret from school
  • Ashamed and want to keep it a secret
  • Men don’t feature in his day-to-day live
  • No Dad around – is he jealous of others?
  • Surrounded by too many women
  • Desperate to be with Dad when they’re with me
  • Clingy
  • Regards me as the strict one and mean
  • Always want friends in the house - I’m not enough
  • Consider themselves to be different as they don’t have any friends with divorced parents
  • Incredibly loyal to me
  • Not been a good eater – don’t know if this is because I haven’t been a foodie of late with separation etc?
  • Abandoned by both parents
  • Hurting
  • Angry as feel parents got what they wanted, and they didn’t
  • Very upset about Mum and Dad not being together but doesn’t show it
  • Confident
  • Scared, uncertain
  • Sad
  • Flippant
  • Feel safe at school
  • Worried about money
  • Worried about Daddy and where he’ll live
  • Want Dad to be OK and to be doing the right thing
  • Misses Dad
  • Surprised by me as they see me relax. Beginning to understand why we seperated.
  • Torn apart, caught in-between
  • Likes being in a little family of 3
  • Feel different to their friends
  • Sleep in my bed
  • Don’t want me to be married again
  • Want to live with me forever
  • Don’t want me to go out
  • Loves me so much – has the love bug!
  • Insecure
  • Supportive of me
  • Emotive and very aware of other’s feelings
  • Sensitive
  • Sensitive towards other’s needs
  • Know their mother has a broken heart
  • Furious
  • Sees his father’s faults, but needs him
  • Vulnerable
  • Aware
  • Tries to keep the peace
  • Throws herself into school
  • Lost her sparkle
  • Attention seeking
  • Defiant
  • Noisy
  • Loud
  • Jealous of her siblings
  • Tends to be bolshy
  • Wild temper
  • Mummy’s girl

    My children are…… but NOT as a result of living with a single parent.

  • Bright
  • Capable
  • Loving
  • Everyone loves him
  • Hard work but an absolute joy
  • Secure
  • Happy
  • Trusting
  • Courageous
  • Accepting
  • Winds me up
  • Popular at school
  • Friends love coming over to us
  • He wants me around a lot
  • Lovely sense of humour
  • Great fun to be with
  • Energetic
  • Very friendly and sociable
  • Stable
  • Part of a small family
  • Very male and energetic
  • Love football
  • Highly strung
  • Incredibly laid back
  • Physical
  • Busy with friends and activities
  • Mood swings
  • Easy going
  • Eager to please
  • Lively and boisterous
  • Knowing
  • Balanced
  • Enjoys friends and hobbies
  • Needs lots of exercise and activities
  • Fits in well
  • Creative
  • Funny
  • Artistic
  • Kind
  • Gentle
  • A small woman
  • Cheeky
  • Struggles at school
  • Selfish
  • Chatty
  • Quite immature
  • Straightforward
  • Huge personality
  • Tactile
  • Caring
  • Talented
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