OK, before leaping into the dating game a little preparation’s required…..

First work out honestly why you’re doing it?

Take yourself back to basics and ask yourself ‘Am I doing this for all the wrong reasons? By wrong reasons I mean a knee-jerk reaction, on the re-bound and filling a gap. At the risk of sounding very touchy-feely – you need to sort yourself out and be happy in your own skin and with your own life before embarking on the dating game (are you?)

What do you want to get out of it?

Dating isn’t the be all and end all, or the only answer to loneliness, upset etc.. Make sure you know exactly what you want dating to do for you, and why you need it. Does it need to be fun, serious, adventure, lustful etc.? Then you’ll be better able to think through this bit….

WHERE TO START?

What are your dating options?

On-line dating agency
An introductions agency
Lonely Hearts ads
Using your friends to set up blind dates
Going on the pull
Speed dating
Spreading the word you’re looking for someone
Cranking up your social life
Any others?

Which of these options appeals most and gives you what you want?

For example, if you’ve worked out you want a date by next Wednesday then on-line might be best. If it’s a fun night, then speed dating or going on the pull with friends might be good. Or if you’ve decided dating would be nice but really you want company then perhaps concentrating on your social life and getting friends to work on it for you might be best.

Write a list of the pro’s and con’s of each approach you’d consider. Now decide on the way you’re going to date and let’s get planning….

Now to the ‘selling yourself and defining your dreamboat worksheet…