Kate & Emily

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Hi i have been a single mum to my four year old daughter since the day i told her father that i was pregnant, He showed interest when she was born as when i was pregnant i thought i was having a boy and he never wanted a son, He told me that was why he showed no interest when i was pregnant.
When he found out id had a girl he was happy, I think he also felt a bit guilty as i almost died when she was born and he wasnt there. I arranged regular contact and he showed up for a few weeks then he started showing up late then he wouldnt show up at all.
When my daughter was three months old we went to a shop with her dad where he bought her an outfit( the first time he spent any money on her at all). He got angry with me outside the shop because i wasnt gratefull enough bcos hed spent £7 and he ended the argument by shouting in my daughters face while she was facing him in th pram that she should never have been born and should have been aborted we then didnt see or hear anything off him untill my daughter was two.
He wanted to see our daughter again i was worried at first after what had happened previously but its always hard to know if ur doing th right thing.

We agreed that he would visit weekly under my supervision but again he got bored and although i repeatedly asked him to come and see our daughter he continuously made excuses, After months of no contact again i made the decision to move to be near my family my ex was aware of the move but still showed no interest in seeing our daughter.
I got in touch with him every week for two years asking him to come and see her but again he made promises but still wouldn't come and see her. Then not so long ago he would send me nasty texts saying things like he would have pay back at me for the fact my daughter had been born And then next thing out of the blue text me asking me to write him a letter lying that my daughter stayed at his place sometimes so that he could get a house because he didnt like his flat.
I wouldnt do this as our daughter hadnt seen him for two years at this time and he just wanted to use her for his gain.
My daughter will be five in march and she has started asking questions about her father and she gets quite angry at him. I tell her only good things about him but she still gets angry and she would like to see him. My ex hasnt bn in touch now for almost a year and i think hes changed his number hes also moved and not given me his new address.
I dont know what more i can do, At what point can u say enoughs enough when trying to get an ex involved in your childs life.

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