Kate & Emily

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Hi,im a 21 year old soon to be single mum to twins!!! I am due to give birth in the middle of June. The father and I were seeing each other for quite a while and had a great time together but knew it could never get serious due to his phycho ex-girlfriend who he had a child with and wouldn't let him move on. I was an escape for him but then we stopped seeing each other when feelings started developing. I told him the news one month ago and havn't heard from him since. I said that I had made the decision without him and therefor didn't expect anything from him and that if I never heard from him again that I didn't care. I was on a power trip. Not that im now wishing he was involved...obviously it would be nice but it isn't getting to me a great deal- the way I see it is that if I don't rely on him whatsoever then he can never let me down and IF he does want to be involved in the slightest then it'll be a bonus. The one thing that I am worrying about now is the financial side of things. I want to find out things like if he's going to tell his family and just how much he'll be around if at all - im just trying to build a picture of how its going to be - are they ever going to know their father and do I tell them that they've got another sybling and if he's even going to tell his ex which i'd rather not in terms of safety and i'd like to sleep with both eyes closed!!! But am I then being selfish in keeping that info from them?? But I don't want to be the one contact him and ask these things because I don't want to seem like I need him because I don't - ive been blessed with an incredible amount of supportive people in my life but I do deserve to know these things not only for my sake but the twin's too. I don't want to seem needy but should I just get off my high horse or keep my pride???