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I am 9 years old and my perants have split up,they split up when i was 4 and i am a little bit worried about the future. i feel like i love my stepmum and my dad more than my mum because my mum is being really horrible to my dad and my step mum at the moment. She rang them up the other night and
was screaming down the phone at them onley because i had had my fringe cut but i really love it. My step mum is an amazing step mum and she really
looks after me and my mum is onley jelous because that she thinks that i love her more than i love my mum. I am getting really fustrated and i am
starting to think that i want to go and live with my dad. My step mum has her own child and he is really cute. i just want some advice because i am stuck between two families and i am worried. My mum always swears infront of me and my older brother who is 12 and swears at my step mum and dad infront of us too. I really dont like this and i want you to help (sent to us by email - name withheld)
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Your Mum is your mum and
Your Mum is your mum and your Dad is your Dad I am sure they both love you very much . sometimes it is hard to understand adult stuff . Mums and Dads
should try not to be mean about each other , why not ask your parents not to be rude about each other in front of you as it upsets you . I am sure they
realise that each other have a very important role in your life but that you are very important to both of them
You are not old enough to decide who to go and live with ,.You are with your Mum and visiting your Dad because that is the best place for you to be. But
do have fun visiting your Dad, try and spend some time with him on your own without your stepmum and her child . I am sure deep down your Mum knows that you love her , being a step mum is a different thing, it is great that she is nice but think of her as a favourite aunty.
Don't try to judge your Mum too much to be honest little things like cutting a child's hair can get blown up into something big.maybe she didn't want your
hair cut . It is important for everyone to talk so why don't you start the ball rolling and when things are nice and calm , sit on your mums lap , have
a cuddle and tell her how all this pushing and pulling is upsetting you.
And then remember what is nice , what is good , what you like about home, what you would like to spend more time doing and things like that . why not
ask Mum to take you to the library and get a really good book out . you are clearly a very bright , clever girl who is very very good at english
If you need someone to talk to then do ring childline 08001111 someone will pick up the phone to talk to you
Good luck