Kate & Emily

Hi Sarah, I agree dating is so difficult now, which is a shame because they need good male role models.Also I would like my child to grow up in a bigger family.Unfortunately my ex has no contact with us, refused to answer my calls and has moved away. My son has not yet asked about his daddy but i am preparing myself as much as i can. I have just ordered some childrens books on the subject and am considering starting the conversation myself.Luckily he has a grandad and uncle nearby who are willing to play with him and take him out. Its good to know there are others going through the same thing, although sad that so many fathers can walk away from their children like this.

Hi Jenny,

Good to hear from you, its always a bit nervewracking setting off into cyber space.

Its also good to actually speak to someone else in the same boat as me and my daughter, albeit electronically. Most of the time we are absolutely fine but there is no denying our situation is different from others and the 'd' word is getting increasingly difficult to deal with. My daughter knows she has a daddy, she knows his name, that he gives us money and lives far away. She often asks when will he come and visit her but for now accepts that he doesn't. How long that will last I don't know. She has never seen him and although i text him whenever she mentions him and ask him to meet her or at least to tell me how I can explain it to her he refuses. And that breaks my heart.

But we are pragmatic and on balance life is good and better for us than for many others. I'd love her to have a proper 'dad' relationship but dating is really difficult as a single mum and I am very cautious.

Perhaps a chat on the phone sometime would be easier?

Take care,
Sarah

Hi I have a 2 year old son and his dad has been absent since he was 6mths. I would love to know somebody in the same situation and for my child to have a friend in the same situation also. Hope you get this- am not very good with computers!