]> http://www.kateandemily.com/taxonomy/term/19/0 The idea behind producing some worksheets for you to go through has been developed for many reasons: by answering questions and prompts that are included in the worksheets it may help you to think about you & life from different angles. Solutions and ideas may come to you. <P> Hopefully it will focus you on the areas that need a little more work. But as importantly boost your confidence by really making you recognise where you are doing a good job. <P> You can fill in all the work sheets at the same time, file them, and then repeat the exercise every three months or so. This will provide a great tool for you to use to see how your family is developing. The most important thing is that they’re useful, so go at your own pace – but keep going, don’t let yourself take your eye off the ball. <P> These worksheets can be filled in on your own, or with other single parents who would like to do the exercise with you. If you do it with other people make sure that your writing down what YOU think (not what the others suggest). You can then talk about the things you’ve written and help each other brain storm a final action plan. Take which ever approach most suits you, make sure you have some peace and quiet, armed with your favourite tipple, coffee, tea or the other . <P> We are sure you will get something out of them. So, in the immortal words of ‘Listening with Mother ‘are you sitting comfortably? Then we shall begin. Once upon a time …..’ en http://www.kateandemily.com/node/169 <p>We are not experts with a raft of diplomas and qualifications (other than a couple of irrelevant degrees, and all manner of other interesting, though unrelated, certificates.) We are however, stuffed full of common sense and experience and hopefully a manner and style which encourages people to sort themselves out, nudge them along the way, or simply to do what they had always meant to do but had never got round to. We are also quite bossy!! </p> <p> We follow 15 people in batches of 5 as they get to know each other, start looking after themselves, improve relationships with their children’s other parent, start businesses, sort out their money, their wardrobes their attitude and so much more.</p> Worksheets Our TV Series Mon, 28 Aug 2006 12:20:45 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/127 <p>Here are a couple of ideas of things to do with your children that will help generate even more ideas of fun you can all have together in the future.</p> <p>A FAMILY LIST OF FUN THINGS TO DO<br /> Sit down with the children and make a list of all the adventures you’d like to go on and the fun things you’d like to do. </p> <p>Use these categories and write down everyone’s ideas under each:</p> <li>Start with the big ideas (day trips, holidays etc) <li>The things to do at home if it was raining and cold <li>The things to do outside that don’t cost any money if it was sunny <li>The things to do outside that don’t cost any money if it was raining and cold<br /> Worksheets New Relationships & Families Out & About The Children Tue, 6 Jun 2006 12:58:22 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/126 <p>Children of any age can find it difficult to talk about how they feel about not living with both their parents. They say it’s ‘fine’ or just don’t raise it but they’re NOT fine, so talk to them and help them tell you. This worksheet gives you an outline of questions you could ask to help you and your children talk.</p> <li>How are you feeling? <p>Lots of children can feel sad or angry etc (use whatever adjectives describe how you think your children are feeling) when they don’t live with their daddy / mummy anymore. Does it make you feel like that?</p> <p>IF YES: Which bits make you sad / angry etc? Which other bits?</p> Worksheets The Children Tue, 6 Jun 2006 12:37:32 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/124 <p>This is a ‘scene-setting’ mission, somewhat akin to ‘planning to’ take up keep fit, i.e. going out to get the shoes and leisure wear, without actually getting sweaty in it! </p> <p>Yes the first step of a financial work out requires very little effort and is more of a fact-finding mission. However, by the end of the first step you will have a good idea about what you need to do to tackle your own personal situation and will be ready for the other worksheets.</p> <p>YOU WILL NEED:</p> <li>I small notebook for your bag to be kept with you at all times <li>One shoebox <li>A little bit of time to answer some questions<br /> Worksheets Money Tue, 6 Jun 2006 12:02:06 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/123 <p>We all want to be richer than we are. For some it’s a bit more urgent than others. If you’re an urgent case then you use this worksheet to help you work out what you’re options are. If you’re a less urgent case, and just dream of a diamond encrusted door knob, then use this worksheet to see if you’ve overlooked a nest egg or can come up with a cunning wheeze to get one…</p> <p>Draw a grid with 5 columns. This is what they’re for: </p> <li>The 1st column is for you to list all your ‘EARNINGS AND ASSETS’. <li>The 2nd column is ‘CURRENT’ and this is where you write in current earnings and assets<br /> Worksheets Money Tue, 6 Jun 2006 12:00:21 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/122 <p>This is a very simple list of what you might have coming in, and going out, on a monthly basis. You need to fill this in after you’ve got to grips with the nuts and bolts of your day-to-day spending. This worksheet helps you crank it up to a global, big-picture view and will either make you smile or cry. But either way, at least you KNOW what the situation is and can do something. No one likes that ostrich feeling and the pit in your stomach only goes when you’re feeling more in control.</p> <p>INCOME<br /> Calculate your monthly income here</p> <p>Earnings<br /> Additional earnings<br /> Benefits<br /> Maintenance received</p> Worksheets Money Tue, 6 Jun 2006 11:59:09 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/104 <p>This form is for you and your co-parent to fill in. Be honest with your answers, nothing is gained from secrecy or leaving things unsaid. Once you have both filled it in you need to go through them together and combine those areas that you can agree on, and compromise on the ones you don’t.</p> <p>YOUR PARENTING OBJECTIVES</p> <p>Q1 Write down how you would describe what your objectives are as a parent. What are they in the long term? And what are your immediate parenting objectives for this coming year?</p> <p>My long-term parenting objectives are ......</p> <p>For the year they are......</p> Worksheets Co-Parenting Mon, 22 May 2006 13:29:40 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/103 <p>Establishing a Code of Conduct with your ex means that rules have been established which will avoid inconsistancy, misunderstanding and hitting each others nuclear button! However, even if your ex dosn't want to play ball and talk about a Code fo Conduct, write your own and lead from the front. Your behaviour will influence the way your ex behaves and ensure that you keep your pride intact and don't end up feeling humiliated by your own poor performance. </p> <p>Here are some prompts to help you write your own Code of Conduct. </p> <p>Q1 How do you and your ex communicate with each other best? Get the most effective, user-friendly and workable channel up and running.</p> Worksheets Co-Parenting Mon, 22 May 2006 13:17:12 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/101 <p>Probably not! Only in America does it cross a child's mind to divorce their parents. The ex is our history, not our childen's. To them, our ex is their Mum or Dad and they will be forever and ever and wherever and whoever they may be. Even unknown Mums and Dads live in their child's imagination, even then they're not an ex-parent. So how are we going to deal with this? The following questions should help to get you thinking about it....</p> <p>Q1 Write down the advantages to your children of encouraging your ex to be an involved parent</p> <p>Q2 Write down the advantages to YOU of encouraging your ex to be an involved parent.</p> Worksheets The Ex Factor The Children Mon, 22 May 2006 12:06:33 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/81 <p>OK settle down for a bit of soul searching and thinking back…. </p> <p>The aim of this worksheet is to help you to realise that there’s probably a reason for you and your ex splitting up that pre-dates the nasty breakdown bit. There were most likely bells ringing about your relationship much earlier. Remembering your bells helps you to realise that you knew something was wrong before it ever got nasty. And somehow taking that sort of long view makes the nasty bit feel more like an inevitable consequence that you both helped to get to. You need to stop dwelling on the climax of the breakdown and look at the bigger picture, accepting that you too have to take some responsibility for it. Here goes…</p> Worksheets New Single Parents The Ex Factor Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:53:29 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/76 <p>Q1 Make a list of words or phrases that describe your life now</p> <p>Q2 Which of these words are as a result of being a single parent? Which are would you be like, or be doing regardless of being a single parent?</p> <p>Q3 What do you see as being the main differences (good and bad) between you and your married friends with children? Write each difference on to its own post-it note or piece of paper.</p> <p>Once you’ve done that put each difference into one of 3 piles:</p> <p>1) You are envious of<br /> 2) Make you pleased to be a single parent<br /> 3) Fall in between these 2 piles</p> <p>Q4 Make a list of words that describe your children</p> Worksheets You Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:41:49 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/75 <p>Q1 Write down the things that stress you out. But them in order of most stressful to least stressful</p> <p>Q2 Write down the things that stress the children out. But them in order of most stressful to least stressful</p> <p>Q3 Look at them and decide which you….</p> <li>are completely responsible for <li>are partly responsible for <li>have some say in, but you’re not responsible for <li>have no say in and no responsibility for <p>Q4 Look at each stress point and work out what’s in it for you and the children if it got sorted. </p> <p>IF YOU’RE COMPLETELY RESPONSIBLE FOR ANY OF THE STRESS POINTS…</p> Worksheets You Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:39:15 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/74 <p>Q1 Describe how you picture your life in 5 years time</p> <p>Q2 What would YOU like to be like in 5 years time?</p> <p>Q3 What do you imagine for the children in 5 years time?</p> <p>Q4 How’s your life going to change then?</p> <p>Q5 List the pro’s and con’s of each of these changes from…</p> <li>your perspective <li>your children’s perspective <li>your ex’s perspective <p>Q6 Are the con’s too persuasive? Do you need to think of an alternative future?</p> <p>Q7 How are you going to make your future happen?</p> <p>Q8 What do you have to do as a first step? Second? Third step?</p> <p>Q9 Give yourself a deadline for each step you’ve identified</p> Worksheets You Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:35:20 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/73 <p>You probably felt busy and over-stretched before you had children. Now with children and as a single parent you probably feel even mmore strectched and are taking the meaning of 'juggling' to new heights?! Generally it seems something has to give if you are to keep yourself, the children and your relationships and friendships on an even keel. You can't be all things to all people - no-one can be Super-Breadwinner, Super-Mum, Super-Dad, Super-Cleaner, Super-Party Animal and Super-at-Coping without pracricing the art of delegation and cutting corners. </p> <p>This worksheet is for you if you're still trying to be Super-at-it- All or are spread far too thin.</p> Worksheets You Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:32:56 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/71 <p>Of all single parents, it's the singletons who often claim to be lonely. When we feel like that, every couple walking past hand in hand seems to be lucky enough to have the solution - a boyfriend or girlfriend. Don't forget though, this couple could feel lonely because all they've got is each other, and she can't talk widgets and he can't do chit-chat They might look at the singleton with their circle of friends and think they have the answer to loneliness - friends. As they say 'The grass is always greener'. So if you're prone to that lonely feeling, then start to understand what it really is and let's crack it....</p> Worksheets You Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:29:42 +0000