Kate & Emily - Worksheets, You

You’re Settling in to it Now Worksheet

Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:41:49 +0000

Q1 Make a list of words or phrases that describe your life now

Q2 Which of these words are as a result of being a single parent? Which are would you be like, or be doing regardless of being a single parent?

Q3 What do you see as being the main differences (good and bad) between you and your married friends with children? Write each difference on to its own post-it note or piece of paper.

Once you’ve done that put each difference into one of 3 piles:

1) You are envious of
2) Make you pleased to be a single parent
3) Fall in between these 2 piles

Q4 Make a list of words that describe your children

Sorting Those Irritations Out Worksheet

Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:39:15 +0000

Q1 Write down the things that stress you out. But them in order of most stressful to least stressful

Q2 Write down the things that stress the children out. But them in order of most stressful to least stressful

Q3 Look at them and decide which you….

are completely responsible for

are partly responsible for

have some say in, but you’re not responsible for

have no say in and no responsibility for

Q4 Look at each stress point and work out what’s in it for you and the children if it got sorted.

IF YOU’RE COMPLETELY RESPONSIBLE FOR ANY OF THE STRESS POINTS…

Now to the Future Worksheet

Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:35:20 +0000

Q1 Describe how you picture your life in 5 years time

Q2 What would YOU like to be like in 5 years time?

Q3 What do you imagine for the children in 5 years time?

Q4 How’s your life going to change then?

Q5 List the pro’s and con’s of each of these changes from…

your perspective

your children’s perspective

your ex’s perspective

Q6 Are the con’s too persuasive? Do you need to think of an alternative future?

Q7 How are you going to make your future happen?

Q8 What do you have to do as a first step? Second? Third step?

Q9 Give yourself a deadline for each step you’ve identified

Over Stretched Worksheet

Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:32:56 +0000

You probably felt busy and over-stretched before you had children. Now with children and as a single parent you probably feel even mmore strectched and are taking the meaning of 'juggling' to new heights?! Generally it seems something has to give if you are to keep yourself, the children and your relationships and friendships on an even keel. You can't be all things to all people - no-one can be Super-Breadwinner, Super-Mum, Super-Dad, Super-Cleaner, Super-Party Animal and Super-at-Coping without pracricing the art of delegation and cutting corners.

This worksheet is for you if you're still trying to be Super-at-it- All or are spread far too thin.

Are You Really Lonely, or is it Something Else?

Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:29:42 +0000

Of all single parents, it's the singletons who often claim to be lonely. When we feel like that, every couple walking past hand in hand seems to be lucky enough to have the solution - a boyfriend or girlfriend. Don't forget though, this couple could feel lonely because all they've got is each other, and she can't talk widgets and he can't do chit-chat They might look at the singleton with their circle of friends and think they have the answer to loneliness - friends. As they say 'The grass is always greener'. So if you're prone to that lonely feeling, then start to understand what it really is and let's crack it....

Do Your Own MoT

Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:03:13 +0000

You MoT is a health check, a measure of your overall well being taken on a regular basis. Everyone should do one, being a single parent makes no difference and you don’t have to be at rock bottom to benefit from it. Just one part of your life (or engine) might not be firing on all cylinders. Identifying it and working out ways to fix it and bring it back up to full performance will mean you get even more mileage out of live (enough puns, get on with it - ed)

This MOT is for you to do once every few months to keep an eye on your well being, to remind you what you’re doing well at, and to alert you to areas that need some attention.