]> http://www.kateandemily.com/taxonomy/term/43/0 If you're new you need to login on the link above to become a forum member. Then you can post and reply at will. Use this forum as a rather lovely cream coloured, with squishy sofas, sort of a chatroom! It's a forum for you all to ask each other general questions, share information, or just to chat. en http://www.kateandemily.com/node/347 <p>Does anyone have a Barbie Candy Glam Syling Head (new - bought for daughter by ex's family - found out today)?<br /> Daughter has intolerances/allergic reactions (sometimes severe/sometimes minor) to additives (mostly ingested but sometimes to things applied to her skin).<br /> Ex/family was given list last January after a severe reaction. Mostly for ingested items as at time it was thought by GP that the reaction was likely from ingested substance. But you would think common sense would prevail given she has always had eczema etc. Clearly not! I have in the past been accused of 'making an unnecessary fuss' despite the GP's advice! Kind of says it all.</p> Dear Everyone Mon, 29 Dec 2008 13:13:18 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/329 <p>Hi All</p> <p>I separated from my husband in February and moved out of the matrimonial home with my 5 year old daughter in May and I'm proceeding with Divorce.</p> <p>Things have been far from easy my husband is a controlling manipulative so and so. I have a busy job working 4 days a week but luckily have a very supportive employer, amazing friends and family.</p> <p>I've tried to do the right thing by encouraging access as often as possible and as well as an overnight every other weekend when he's other 9 year old daughter stays. However, he constantly changes access arrangements to try and inconvenience me (which it does not).</p> Dear Everyone Mon, 6 Oct 2008 20:25:26 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/317 <p>I am wanting to split with my partner. However, my name is not on the mortgage, although my money is tied into the property. It's is the matrimonial home and we have an 8 year old. I do not want to make my child homeless, lose her friends and she is doing well in school, basically upset her routine.</p> <p>The only problem is the house. I have looked into getting my name put on the mortgage but the way things are now with credit crunch it would cripple me.</p> <p>We live in Scotland and the law is different than English law or so I have been told.</p> <p>Please help.</p> <p>Erica x</p> Dear Everyone Fri, 5 Sep 2008 06:30:24 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/294 <p>My husband and I split up approx 1 year ago and all was fine, however, in the last 2 months or so my 6 year old daughter has become a complete nightmare, rude, misbehaved, argumentative you name it she is it which is completely out of character for her. She tends to be worse when she comes back from her fathers. She acts as if she hates me and I can't do anyting right. My husband left me for another woman that he is still seeing and my daughter knows her and dislikes her. I have a new partner who my daughter has only met once and she says she really likes him. I am at my wits end, I am tr</p> Dear Everyone Mon, 16 Jun 2008 13:52:47 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/293 <p>I have a bit of a situation at the moment that I would like some advice on please if you could help.<br /> It is quite confusing, but please bare with me, and I will do my best.</p> <p>I was a single parent to two boys aged 16 and 2yrs old when I met my ex-partner, I had been divorced from my eldest sons dad for 9yrs, and out of the relationship with my youngest sons dad for nearly 2 1/2yrs, we split up when I was 4mths pregnant, as he went back with his ex wife.</p> <p>So I was a single parent and coping quite well, then along came my ex-partner, he had never been married before, and had no children, and due to this reason I was very guarded as to how quick the relationship progressed, as I knew due to my childrens age, and him having very little experience with children we would have hiccups,,</p> Dear Kate & Emily Dear Everyone Sat, 14 Jun 2008 15:11:34 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/279 <p>Hi everyone. </p> <p>I am looking for single/lone parents to interview about their access to information and advice services, on behalf of a Scottish lone parent charity.</p> <p>This could be by telephone interview, or by taking part in a group event, in April/early May. We normally give participants a small thank you in cash for their time.</p> <p>If you think you might be able to get involved, please email me in confidence for more details.</p> <p>michael.ross@yorkconsulting.co.uk</p> <p>Thanks<br /> Michael</p> Dear Everyone Wed, 9 Apr 2008 13:04:41 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/264 <p>I split up with my husband 2 years ago, everything was fine after that. We got on well and there was no real agro. Then 2 months ago I re-married. As soon as I told my Ex he turned into a complete idiot, He decided to tell the kids that he had booked a trip to Disney land in Florida on the same week as my wedding. So you can imagine that the kids were upset that I would not let them go because of the wedding. </p> <p>After the wedding I took my new husband’s name. We wanted to change the kids names too so we all had the same surname. We applied for a Deed Poll but it was blocked in court by their dad,</p> Dear Everyone Thu, 14 Feb 2008 17:47:46 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/262 <p>Hello !</p> <p>This may sound really silly, but, I have been single mummy for a year and a half, still not used to it and still very much in love with my ex. Anyhow, thats not the thing..... I have two boys of 5 and 2. I would really like to take them abroad for a holiday, but I don't think I could cope. All my friends are married with children or single without children, and it is not possible for me to go away with anyone else. My boys are well behaved, but the thought of taking them on my own on a plane to a different country terrifies me. Sometimes I get stressed taking them to Tesco's !!!</p> Dear Everyone Tue, 5 Feb 2008 10:47:35 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/256 <p>Hi, I have a lovely 18 month old boy and we have very recently moved out of the family home into a one bedroom flat. I am looking for advise on how to copy with this change in my circumstances (emotionally) and especially how to support my son through it. I don't feel as though I am coping with this move as well as I had hoped to, I am short tempered with my son (which leaves me feeling so guilty and inadequate as a mum) and my greatest fear is that I will take my frustration and anger out on him. I feel claustrophobic not being able to get away from his crying, or his understandable need for my constant attention or having my own space to retreat to when I go to bed. So far my son has cope remarkably well (much better than his mum!) but he's not playing with his toys and he cries when I leave him at nursery, oh and then there are the 5am starts to our day when he wakes up (also out of character). Can you advise me on what my son must be feeling and going through and how best I can help him so that he feels settled and secure.</p> Dear Everyone Fri, 1 Feb 2008 12:35:41 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/249 <p>Hi,<br /> My two daughters (aged 9 &amp; 12, nearly 13) and I are adjusting to a new year, and a fresh start in our new house. My girls seem to have taken everything in their stride and I'm feeling good about my future – I've survived a pretty traumatic marriage break up over the past two years, and have found your website a valuable refuge during the hard times. You have a very positive and optimistic approach which helps you to see the light at the end of the tunnel!</p> <p>My ex and I have agreed maintenance &amp; access between us, and its been working until recently. He has the girls overnight every other weekend, and also twice in the week just for tea. I wasn't particularly keen on the week day visits, because of school &amp; homework etc. but because of the girls ages decided to let them see their dad if they wanted to.</p> Dear Everyone Wed, 23 Jan 2008 10:26:47 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/240 <p>Hello, great website, well done girls! I hope someone can advise me. I am looking for children's books to share with my 5 year old son that will gently help him understand that he has a dad, although dad hasn't been in contact for almost 4 years (and is not likely to make contact). Dad's family have not been in contact either.</p> <p>My little one doesn't remember his dad, he was only 1 when we split. There have been no "significant others" since, just the 2 of us. We are very happy and have a wonderful and fun relationship and lots of family and friends.</p> <p>Six months ago little one asked me if he has a daddy and I think I may have given the wrong answer, I said "Some children have mummy's, some have daddy's and some have mummy's and daddy's, and you have got a super mummy!" He then asked me where my super mummy cape was,adorable hey?! My explanation seemed to satisfy him and he hasn't asked me about dad since.</p> Dear Everyone Sat, 15 Dec 2007 22:04:59 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/238 <p>I split with my husband March 2006 after I found out he was having an affair. For years he had been accusing me of affairs and put me through mental cruelty and physical abuse.</p> <p>I've been through all the emotions you can think of and now, just before Christmas, I find out that my ex has introduced my son to this woman and it looks as if they are living together. Meanwhile, I am struggling to move on, rebuffing advances from men scared to death that the same thing is going to happen again. I just don't feel as though I can trust anyone again and it breaks my heart that I will end up alone and unloved.</p> Dear Everyone Sun, 9 Dec 2007 21:58:42 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/227 <p>Hi everyone.<br /> I'm Andrea, 35yrs old and have 2 children, Shannon(9) and Rebecca(3). I have only been a single Mum for 2 months(this time around). Have only just got a pc so have no idea what i'm doing either! Am still in shock stage as i have taken my ex back twice now(hence the age gap between the girls), lots has gone on, too much to explain in an email but am finding life very hard at the moment, and quite down. Anyone out there who has any advice i'd be happy to take it.</p> <p>A.x.</p> Dear Everyone Mon, 6 Aug 2007 20:19:34 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/226 <p>Howz you doing I’m Eileen, 24 from Portsmouth, can anyone help me out with a question about a song from about 2 years ago, it was singing about wires I think, any help with the group?</p> <p>I don’t know if anyones interested but I claimed a free impulse today at www.freebeautygifts.co.uk, just apply for a catalogue and get a free impulse. Not bad. Anyway, if someone can help me with the song because I am desperate to find it.</p> Dear Everyone Fri, 27 Jul 2007 16:01:05 +0000 http://www.kateandemily.com/node/225 <p>I happened across Kate &amp; Emily's TV program yesterday. I don't know what caught my interest but I watched two shows and just had to find out more. So many things that I've thought and experienced were being talked about - it felt like I'd written some of the scripts. I searched the internet for more info and here I am. I split up from my husband in 1992 and boy, do I wish that the girls (yes, that's you Kate and Emily!) had been around back then. It's been one huge learning curve and a wonderful, tearful, fulfilling, soul-destroying, happy, educational, frustrating and fun-filled journey. I can't honestly say that I wouldn't have missed it for the world, but I can't turn the clock back and it has ultimately made me into the woman I am today. I'll never know what the woman I might have been, had I remained with my husband, would have been like but I know that today I am a confident, happy, career-doing-well 49 year old mother of two energetic teenage boys.</p> Dear Everyone Tue, 29 May 2007 20:18:09 +0000