Kate & Emily

Where do I start?

My daughter is seven, and I have been raising her totally alone. Her father was someone I only saw a few times, and when I tried to tell him I was pregnant, he wouldn't even talk to me. So, he never knew I was having his baby.. i feel so much pain and shame that things are this way. However, i am tough and we are doing ok. My daughter gets upset at times, usually when kids at school have been talking about their dads, but generally she is very happy, and our life is good.

I am a 23 year old newly single mom to a beautiful 3 month old baby boy. His dad left only a week ago, rather, kicked us out. It's quite a long story what has happened between us, so I will (try to) keep it simple. He left when I first got pregnant at the end of last year after trying to convince me to have an abortion because he didn't want to lose his freedom - very selfish to say the least. I just couldn't do it.... It would have killed me. We didn't speak for 4 months of the pregnancy, then he realized he didn't want someone else to be with me or someone else to raise his child.

Like many of the other messages I'm reading here my son's father has been absent since before my son was born. My son, Colin, is now 3.5 years old and for the past year or so has been talking increasingly about his Daddy (he has phone chats with his imaginary Daddy, and tells me stories about going to the park or zoo w/ his Daddy). I spent a lot of time going back and forth trying to decide if I wanted to try and rope his father into occasional visits. I have maintained infrequent but mostly civil contact with his Dad.

Hi its really just an update on the posts ive sent b4 really well i tried my best to involve my little girls father he is still yet to show interest and has changed his numbers and moved so i can no longer contact him. MY little girl had her autism assessment and has been diagnosed with aspergers syndrome a week before Christmas I also have a son by a different partner who has epilepsy and delays it can be very difficult emotionally ESPECIALLY SINCE IVE BEEN UNWELL MYSELF RECENTLY .

Recently I located my son's father who left with his girlfriend when I was 8 months pregnant. Pregnancy was unplanned and he was bitter because I would not terminate. My son now being 9 years old has ongoing health issues and was why I choose to open this can of worms. My son's father is still very much resentful of the fact he has responsibilities to this child and I am beginning to think maybe I should have left things alone. I needed medical assistance which I no longer have because I lost my job of 15 years.